tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6593768356444181863.post3529566830156430512..comments2023-10-21T15:57:40.694+01:00Comments on When I grow up . . . .: Happy Birthday Emmabugerlugs63http://www.blogger.com/profile/08598249255143939365noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6593768356444181863.post-17661511980207061042012-03-05T15:03:21.996+00:002012-03-05T15:03:21.996+00:00I just read this....:o( you poor baby girl, but yo...I just read this....:o( you poor baby girl, but you really, truly are an amazing woman. So in touch with your humanness, your mistakes, your greatness, your filled with humility and realness. To be able to look back at this birth and express the sadness, the emptiness, so clearly, but then translate it to now when you can see that despite the pain, you know you did the best you could and thats enough. Such courage! Bless your heart.Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6593768356444181863.post-52041810167256092152011-12-14T13:39:41.468+00:002011-12-14T13:39:41.468+00:00Happy Birthday Emma.
I'm sorry you went throu...Happy Birthday Emma.<br /><br />I'm sorry you went through this. I am sure you will make the right decision for yourself as far as looking for her. <br /><br />Sometimes the child wants the mother to look (my cousin is adopted and she refuses to look) and sometimes they're not told. (a friend didn't find out until her 50's then she found her bio mother a year before her real mother died. She was thrilled to have had that experience.Have Myelin?https://www.blogger.com/profile/05704037582961814202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6593768356444181863.post-91373955396907958482011-12-12T09:02:57.639+00:002011-12-12T09:02:57.639+00:00Karl,
Heavy indeed! If my Daughter also had a daug...Karl,<br />Heavy indeed! If my Daughter also had a daughter at 15 and then her daughter did too . . . I could be a Great-Grandmother!! Then I would be able to justify hitting the menopause!<br />I think its more acceptable now for 15 yr old girls to be pregnant and keep the baby . . . Also much more support available. Although even with all that . . they are still only 15. I was socially retarded at 15 (possibly still am!) from living with "religious nut jobs".<br />Baileys is on my shopping list for tomorrow ;-)bugerlugs63https://www.blogger.com/profile/08598249255143939365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6593768356444181863.post-66059852849998980642011-12-12T08:50:20.400+00:002011-12-12T08:50:20.400+00:00Maureen,
Yes, I wondered if Emma might look once ...Maureen, <br />Yes, I wondered if Emma might look once she has had children of her own. As I said to Jeannie if Emma gets her BC which she would be entitled to at 18, whether she had been told or not, Then it would easy for her to trace me. Rare surname and my Dad is still in N. Wales.<br />I would say Sheila could not help but think of you on your Birthday . . . No matter how many years have gone by. Definitely. She will probably relive the event every year as I do. Thats the first time I've told anyone else about those few days. I've said I had a daughter adopted but never gone through the details. I hope you find your Birth Mother. Sometimes I don't want it to happen. Other times I do. Thanks for your comment. You too take care.bugerlugs63https://www.blogger.com/profile/08598249255143939365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6593768356444181863.post-85794766468283085182011-12-12T00:02:40.129+00:002011-12-12T00:02:40.129+00:00Hey that was some heavy shit, I'm glad times h...Hey that was some heavy shit, I'm glad times have changed because one of my daughters gave birth when she was 15. But hey,you could be a Grandmother and your boys may be uncles.karlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09348192514955706097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6593768356444181863.post-14776562809509874892011-12-11T23:03:11.620+00:002011-12-11T23:03:11.620+00:00God Bless You, for giving her up for adoption! As ...God Bless You, for giving her up for adoption! As an adoptee myself, I have looked 4 my b.m. since my son was born in 1979! The baby doctor, can't think to spell it right now, he helped me petition the courts here in AZ. 4 my original b.c.! Well, I got it & learned allot from what my Mom & Dad ( adoptive parents ) told me. So, I've been looking & she b.m. will take the secret to her grave. Being a LOVE CHILD, I have names, ages ....... but at my age, I still wonder. I too have joined the different adoption sites. Nada... well, YOU did GREAT,YOU were YOUNG and did the right thing. Happy Birthday Emma! Now, I wonder when my birthday arises, does Shelia ( b.m. ) think of me? My baby bracelet had my b.f.'s name on it, Tyler. So, I am sure she will try to find you! Unless, nobody told her she was adopted! I was told when I was 6 yrs.old. Then, I have a brother, who is 2 &1/2 years younger than I.People try 2 hard 2 have a baby, and soon as I was walking, after 2 major surgeries ( back in 1955 ) EONS AGO for my birthday. I'll be 57 in February, neither parent thought I'd make it 2 age of 21!m Lost my Dad at age 59 & boy was I angry! My stepmonster told me he kept hitting her w/left arm. ( sign of heart attack ) & she tells me, " I thought he wanted sex"!! Give me a fucking break! Thanks for letting me vent & comment too. YOU ARE AWESOME & YOU DID THE RIGHT THING, NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE SAYS OR makes you feel !!! YOU Rock in my book, take care<br />Blessings,<br />MaureenMaureen Jo Begley AZNAMAhttp://www.methadone.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6593768356444181863.post-8249487998861861132011-12-11T21:03:25.337+00:002011-12-11T21:03:25.337+00:00Furtheron,
Yes 49 in January . . . which leaves me...Furtheron,<br />Yes 49 in January . . . which leaves me a year to reach my goals! how time flies.<br />Yes, yet another area where the guy gets off lightly . . . He was doing A levels and from a very "good" family. His parents didn't want any disruptions. Mine dint give a fuck ;-)<br />Listened to some of your "sounds" the other day and ended up with "I used to love her" (?) stuck in my head for hours. Very catchy. I might have the title slightly wrong. I'm back soon to hear the one that has been covered. That must feel great. Keep at it xbugerlugs63https://www.blogger.com/profile/08598249255143939365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6593768356444181863.post-20440399386874986192011-12-11T20:50:54.131+00:002011-12-11T20:50:54.131+00:00Annie,
Yeah things were different back then. I loo...Annie,<br />Yeah things were different back then. I look at my Son's friends at 15 and can hardly believe I was so young. I think my Dad had so many problems of his own at the time that he couldn't help me. And my mum, well . . .<br />Moving on ;-) All's good now. I have more than enough kids to keep me going. Love n hugs to all xbugerlugs63https://www.blogger.com/profile/08598249255143939365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6593768356444181863.post-1905314352133970402011-12-11T20:43:41.989+00:002011-12-11T20:43:41.989+00:00Barbara.
Probably was the best thing for everyone ...Barbara.<br />Probably was the best thing for everyone at the time. I was living in a "religious" commune and already bringing up my younger Brother (and Dad!) My Mum had offered for me to go to her and Husband for the day in the Midlands to get an abortion, then go back to my Dad. I thought I would be sruck down dead if I did such a thing! I already saw this as God's punishment for having sex and thought I could "right" it all by giving Emma to a couple who badly wanted a baby. I would have struggled to cope really. I have had abortions since . . . and survived ;-) Thanks for the hug x and can't wait to hear about Monday, Go for it!bugerlugs63https://www.blogger.com/profile/08598249255143939365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6593768356444181863.post-31966982597303386612011-12-11T20:19:20.409+00:002011-12-11T20:19:20.409+00:00Jeannie, Yes I almost joined a site where they mat...Jeannie, Yes I almost joined a site where they matched people up . . . but on reflection she could easily find me if she wanted. My surname is on her birth certifcate. Registered in N. Wales. The only one of that name in N Wales phone directory is my Dad. So I presume she hasn't tried. Sometimes I think it might be best that way. She could have a major disappointment. Then again she could be in the same boat as me. Who knows. Huge can of worms . . .bugerlugs63https://www.blogger.com/profile/08598249255143939365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6593768356444181863.post-92069195782920520032011-12-11T16:03:56.883+00:002011-12-11T16:03:56.883+00:00Happy birthday Emma - and what a thing for you to ...Happy birthday Emma - and what a thing for you to have gone through - we must be almost identical age (I'm 49) I couldn't have handled a pregnancy or a baby at that age - even if some of my actions with a certain girl called Jo around that time might have led you to thinking differentlyFurtheronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11903753972242964410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6593768356444181863.post-7916310197214400672011-12-11T15:40:13.859+00:002011-12-11T15:40:13.859+00:00What a traumatic experience for a 15 year old! Al...What a traumatic experience for a 15 year old! All these years later, do you think it was the right thing to do for Emma? I admire you for having her, I had an abortion at 15 :(<br /><br />Isn't it amazing that so often the songs we hear relate to what we are going through at that exact moment? <br /><br />Sending you a hug today and a happy birthday to Emma.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6593768356444181863.post-27518883424249967442011-12-11T08:57:49.036+00:002011-12-11T08:57:49.036+00:00What an awful invasive procedure,thankfully induct...What an awful invasive procedure,thankfully induction is a mere swallowing of a pill these days...I can't imagine having to go thru that so young.I can't imagine putting my daughter thru that either.Well,i am trying to but my instinct would be to protect you both.Big hugs.xxxxxxxxannadingdonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11570799863318369031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6593768356444181863.post-53862852375668426512011-12-11T04:01:39.199+00:002011-12-11T04:01:39.199+00:00You poor thing. You were so young - so much guilt ...You poor thing. You were so young - so much guilt heaped on you. Have you ever thought to look her up? Yes, Happy Birthday Emma. (I love that name)Jeanniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15320507412459242451noreply@blogger.com